Use AI as a tool. Don’t let it steer you.

Artificial intelligence is a brilliant accelerator. Used well, AI takes routine work off our hands, helps analyse data and frees up time. Technology should serve people – not the other way round.

It becomes harmful when AI is used as a substitute for human sparring partners, self-reflection and the capacity for deep relationships. One critical limitation: AI can’t offer long-term, structured, strategic sparring. It reacts and recombines existing patterns, but it has no strategic foresight and can’t accompany complex human dynamics over long periods of time.

On top of that, modern AI models are “grandmasters of validation”, optimised to keep telling us we’re right. This uncritical people-pleasing carries a real risk: a creeping mental dependence. If you get used to instant affirmation, you not only lose the ability to handle friction – you also risk becoming socially isolated. In digital interaction, the core elements of human communication – body language, gestures and facial expressions – are lost entirely. If your only conversations are with algorithms, you lose touch with the subtleties of real human contact.

In a BANI world shaped by overlapping crises – brittle, anxious, non-linear and incomprehensible – AI reaches its limits. It feels no empathy, takes no responsibility and can’t create real resonance. My approach uses AI where it genuinely helps, and gives you a real human counterpart exactly where transformation, strategic depth and healthy independence are needed.